Why the shade The common practice of momshaming

first_imgCALGARY – Moms everywhere can attest to harsh judgment from other people, including other moms experiencing the same struggles.Moms reach out for help or share their successes and others are quick to jump in and shame them for parenting styles and lifestyle choices, among other things. There’s an expectation that mothers just know everything when they become a mom due to traditional gender roles, even though society has evolved, according to author Anne Walsh.“It’s almost as if it’s set in stone that if something goes wrong when it comes to the kids, it has to be the mom. And you see it if something happens to a child, you’ll hear, ‘Well, where was the mother?’ It’s always ‘where was the mother“. We’re kind of type-cast in that way in that we are responsible no matter what–no matter how busy you are, whether you’re a working mom or a stay at home mom… Anything that concerns your child is perceived as your responsibility.”Walsh adds one of the struggles that comes with that is that being a mom is a 24/7/365 operation. You’re constantly “on” with no breaks.“There are no jobs out there that you’re expected to perform 24/7, where you’re not allowed to take breaks, where you’re not allowed to make mistakes. And when you’re sleep deprived and you have multiple responsibilities–that’s a lot of pressure to put on a human being! If you do make a mistake, there’s such harsh judgment.”Nicole Scopie, mother to a young baby who was born three months premature, knows first-hand the feeling of being judged when reaching out for help.Nicole Scopie’s son was birth three months premature. She says she’s seen lots of mom-shaming as a first-time mom. (CREDIT: Photo provided by Nicole Scopie)“Everything right now revolves around social media, but social media is such a double-edged sword,” she said.“You can find some absolutely great groups… but there are mom other groups where you can actually be quite belittled by asking a simple question. But if you don’t know, you don’t know. And that’s why we ask, there’s no point in putting someone down because of it. And if someone is asking you, they’ve likely exhausted all other options.”Scopie said mothers are very quick to judge each other due to a variety of parenting styles.“Everybody believes in a certain way to raise their children but not everybody believes in the same way. It’s hard for others to respect that and they’re so quick to turn around and judge.” She says with her baby being so premature there were complications when it came to feeding. Not only did her son need formula, but she had trouble producing milk. She says another mother blamed her for not being able to feed her baby, and therefore being able to properly bond with her son.Nicole Scopie’s son, who was born three months premature. (CREDIT: Nicole Scopie)“He’s happy and healthy–why should it matter how I feed him? He’s getting everything he needs. Why do you feel the need to sit there and scrutinize someone like that?” She’s seen a number of other similar situations like this online, and she’s not the only one who’s gone through that judgment.“It’s just brutal… To sit there and be at your wit’s end, begging for help, just to be told that you’re a bad mom? It’s awful to see some of the things people say.”And there’s an added challenge with social media when all you see is the perfect snapshots of motherhood, the clean house and the moms with clean clothes and a perfect hairdo and flawless makeup–not reality.“Just sweeping the floor sometimes, if you have a colicky baby, it’s almost impossible. It’s exactly that, there’s the perfect image that everyone has to portray on the internet. You can’t be real about it.”But, on the other hand, Scopie says sometimes you luck out with other moms online.“When he was in the NICU, I was a part of a Facebook group across Canada. One of the NICU nurses actually reached out to me because she also just had a baby. And it actually turns out she was a nurse at the NICU he was in. She’s been probably one of the biggest people that I go to besides my mom,” explained Scopie.Jennifer Luckhardt, a new mom to a baby girl, says it’s also difficult to know what’s the right parenting path to take when there’s so much conflicting information online.“What’s very confusing are the guidelines we get for raising our children,” expressed Luckhardt.“On the one hand I’ve been looking into feeing her solid foods–she’s going to be five months [soon]. I found one recommendation that said you should only breastfeed exclusively until they’re six months, otherwise, it gives them a higher risk of developing food allergies. And then I found another recommendation that said you should start them on food around five months and introducing solids, otherwise they will have food allergies!”She says it’s incredibly confusing when there’s no definitive answer. “No matter what you do you are wrong.”Walsh echoes Scopie’s and Luckhardt’s statements and says there’s a dichotomy in motherhood because on one hand society idolizes mothers but we simultaneously devalue their contributions to society and to their families.“You’re supposed to be perfect, but even if you’re doing it perfectly, everything you’ve done is exactly perfect according to the ideals, it’s still not seen as a big deal.”Walsh recently released her book on motherhood, Out of the Mouth of Moms, from the Trenches of Motherhood, a collection of stories from other mothers about their own struggles. She hopes the book will give struggling mothers a feeling that they’re not alone.last_img read more

Tottenham Hotspurs options to replace injured Harry Kane

first_imgNow that we know Harry Kane will miss at least one and a half month of competition, we have to talk about his possible subs at Tottenham.This Tuesday was mostly led by really bad news coming from the Tottenham Hotspur camp, as the extent of Harry Kane’s ankle injury was disclosed and the Englishman will miss at least one and a half months of competition.All the Spurs fans are really worried about the repercussions that this may bring, because we are talking about one of the most important strikers in the world right now and they won’t have him for an important amount of matches this season.The most worrying part of all this will be the first Champions League against Borussia Dortmund, which Kane will miss without question and leaves Mauricio Pochettino with a huge dilemma of who might be able to replace the skipper.There are three options that the Argentine manager is considering, we are going through all of them and give you the details in this article.Game day! #COYS pic.twitter.com/B003gtKwVo— Heung-Min Son (@OfficiaISonny) September 16, 2017Son Heung MinThe South Korean forward is the natural option to replace Harry Kane, he is the other Tottenham Hotspur’s player who has been on fire this season and there is no question that he would be the ideal candidate to take Harry Kane’s place as the offensive leader for the time the captain won’t be available.But there is a major problem with Son, he traveled to the United Arab Emirates this week to represent his country in this year’s Asia Cup.South Korea is considered a favorite of this competition and they are expected to go all the way to the final, if that happens then Son would return until after February 1st.The forward playing all the tournament with South Korea means that he will likely miss the upcoming five matches for Spurs, but he will certainly be back in time to play the Champions League’s round of 16 against Borussia Dortmund.⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️💥💥💥💥 pic.twitter.com/5KpLCcsjsI— Lucas Moura (@LucasMoura7) August 27, 2018Lucas MouraWhen Son is not around, Mauricio Pochettino could take the option of playing with Lucas Moura as a striker.Victor Wanyama, Tottenham Hotspur, Premier LeaguePochettino admits Wanyama remains in his Spurs plans Manuel R. Medina – September 14, 2019 Kenyan international, Victor Wanyama, was the protagonist of a summer transfer saga, but in the end, he is set to stay at Tottenham Hotspur.The Brazilian winger has proved his worth this season with great performances against worthy opponents, but he is far from being a striker like Son or Kane truly are.However, Moura could bring something entirely different to Tottenham and Mauricio Pochettino could opt to play with no natural striker down the middle.This option does seem a little more farfetched but the Argentine manager does seem stuck in a tight spot with this decision, while there are other options like Dele Alli, the manager might end up deciding to use the only centre-forward he has to properly replace Harry Kane.Training session #COYS #THFC pic.twitter.com/8VTSvaHIpA— Fernando Llorente (@llorentefer19) January 11, 2019Fernando LlorenteThe odds that an opportunity like this could present itself for Fernando Llorente were pretty slim, but this is how destiny and football work sometimes.The Spaniard has gone from not being considered to play for Tottenham at all, to one of the very first options that Mauricio Pochettino is considering to replace Harry Kane in the next one and a half month of all competitions.There is no question that the Spaniard does have the quality to replace the Englishman, the only problem is the lack of participation which might get him to start a bit slow in the first few matches.However, Llorente had been waiting for this big break for a long time and he won’t let this opportunity get past him at all.Delivering good performances while Harry Kane is out of commission, might be the best way in which Tottenham Hotspur could increase this player’s value for the next transfer window.Injuries are part of the game but no-one will be working harder to get back fit. Thanks for the messages. pic.twitter.com/cUeq4zFrlk— Harry Kane (@HKane) January 15, 2019Who should replace Harry Kane as the striker for Tottenham Hotspur in the upcoming matches? Please share your opinion in the comment section down below.last_img read more

Dwarakish death hoax Veteran actorfilmmaker is alive clears the air with a

first_imgA screen shot from Dwarakish’s video.PR HandoutVeteran Kannada actor and filmmaker Dwarakish has become the latest victim of a death hoax. There were rumours doing rounds that he passed away following which his fans started sharing their condolence messages on social media.”This is to clarify once again. Dwarakish sir is fine and well. Please don’t allow rumors to spread [sic],” director Chaitanya KM gave a clarification on Twitter when the speculations started going viral.Meanwhile, Dwarakish himself has issued a statement in a video to put an end to the rumours. “Hello everyone, this is your Karnatakada Kulla. I am hale and healthy. Please do not believe any rumours on my health,” Dwarakish said. He added that with the people’s blessings and love he is “doing well.”Since Monday evening, speculations were doing rounds on WhatsApp which had come as a shock to the fans of Kannada films. The clarification has come as a relief to the cine-goers which are still recovering from the death of veterans like Ambareesh, Parvathamma Rajkumar and Kashinath in recent years. Dwarakish is a multifaceted actor, who has produced and directed quality movies in Kannada. Known as Prachanda Kulla by his fans, he directed, acted and produced the movies of legends like Dr Rajkumar and Vishnuvardhan. He found a place in the hearts of millions of fans as a comedian. Gradually, he displayed his directorial skills and made landmarks movies like “Mayor Muthanna”, “Kulla Agent 000”, “Singaporenalli Raja Kulla”, “Guru Shishyaru”, etc.last_img read more

Cutting Down Costs Not Trees

first_img This hands-on workshop will give you the tools to authentically connect with an increasingly skeptical online audience. 3 min read Enroll Now for Free Free Workshop | August 28: Get Better Engagement and Build Trust With Customers Nowcenter_img June 29, 2007 Who: Hayden Hamilton, 30What:GreenPrint Technology, eco-friendly software that eliminates wasteful pages before they’re printedWhere: Portland, OregonAnyone who works in an office or has a printer at home has experienced the frustration–and guilt–of printing a one-page e-mail, only to be forced to throw away three extra pages of unwanted legal jargon and banner ads. Thanks to GreenPrint Technology’s analytical software, you’ll not only save money wasted on paper and ink, but you’ll also save a tree or two.The average employee prints six wasted pages per day. At an average of $0.06 a page, employers are spending nearly $85 a year–per employee–in wasted paper.”On top of the clear waste it’s producing, it’s also creating inefficiency,” says company founder Hayden Hamilton. For him, the final straw came after noticing the huge amounts of wasted paper being created at his former office. The large, five-story office building had 20 to 30 print stations, each overflowing with unwanted printouts by 11 a.m. The mess forced busy executives to root through stacks of paper on the printer–and even the floor–trying to locate a document they printed 10 minutes earlier.Hamilton’s solution was a program that analyzes the content of each print job for pages that have wasteful characteristics, such as legal jargon you’d find in an e-mail from a bank or airline and pages that contain a single URL or banner ad. All the pages in the document are displayed on one screen, with the pages detected as wasteful highlighted in red. The user has the option of quickly adding and removing pages from the print job with a click of the mouse. In addition, images you don’t need to print, such as pictures and ads, can be removed to save ink. According to Hamilton, GreenPrint can save larger companies up to 20 percent in reduced costs and increased efficiency.Starting an eco-friendly company was only natural for Hamilton, who grew up in the Pacific Northwest and headquartered his company in Portland, Oregon, one of the top 10 “green” cities in the U.S., according to National Geographic’s “The Green Guide.” “Being environmentally conscious was instilled in me at an early age,” he says, recalling the time he spent at his grandmother’s house every summer, hiking and playing outdoors. As an active member of the eco-friendly Sierra Club, she taught Hamilton the importance of protecting the environment.Today, Hamilton is proud of GreenPrint’s potential impact on the environment. According to his website, a Fortune 500 company using GreenPrint Technology would save more than $2 million in reduced costs, save more than 4,000 trees and prevent 12,623 tons of carbon dioxide emissions each year. And if all new computers used GreenPrint, it would save more than 36 million trees every year and reduce carbon dioxide emissions by more than 117 million tons–the equivalent of removing 23 million cars from the road for an entire year.Hamilton is hoping to make this predicted environmental impact a reality. He’s already working with Fortune 500 companies, and the product can currently be purchased online for $35 for the home-user version.Hamilton, who launched GreenPrint in 2005, expects sales of $5 million to $10 million in 2007. His biggest reward, however, is seeing the impact his small company of five full-time employees is making on the world. As his mission statement so proudly boasts, he really is saving money today, trees tomorrow.last_img read more

Turnover up by 10 says GRUPO IBEROSTAR new hotels renos in store

first_img Monday, January 30, 2017 PALMA DE MALLORCA — It was a solid year of growth for GRUPO IBEROSTAR, which reported a turnover of 2.03 billion euros, a 10% increase from 2015.The company, which celebrated its 60th anniversary in 2016, has an international presence that extends to 30 countries. Spain continued to lead the field in terms of Mediterranean destinations, closing the year with record figures both in occupancy rates and results. Mexico and the Dominican Republic also enjoyed steady growth in occupancy, rates and profitability, as did Cuba, one of the Group’s key strategic targets.Growth was fuelled by an ambitious investment program that saw the opening of hotels in new destinations, such as the United States (IBEROSTAR 70 Park Avenue in New York), and Ibiza (IBEROSTAR Santa Eulalia Ibiza).This year, IBEROSTAR Hotels & Resorts will open six new hotels: IBEROSTAR Grand Hotel Portals Nous (Majorca, Spain); IBEROSTAR Berkely (South Beach, Miami); IBEROSTAR Bella Vista (Varadero, Cuba); IBEROSTAR Club Palmeraie Marrakesh (Morocco); IBEROSTAR Cancun (Mexico); and IBEROSTAR Playa Blanca (Cayo Largo, Cuba).More news:  Sunwing ready to launch Mazatlán-Quebec City direct this winterCuba will see a lot of activity this year. The company will increase its hotel portfolio on the island to 17 properties by the end of the year. Major projects include the IBEROSTAR Riviera and the IBEROSTAR Grand Hotel Packard in Havana; the IBEROSTAR Casa Granda, IBEROSTAR Imperial and IBEROSTAR Gran Hotel in Santiago de Cuba; and the IBEROSTAR Colonial in Cayo Coco.Noting the importance of the urban segment, the company has plans to increase the number of hotels it operates in major tourist capitals around the world. Within the next three years, IBEROSTAR Hotels & Resorts will have a total of 15 urban hotels in top destinations like Budapest, New York, Madrid, Miami, Havana, Barcelona, Lisbon, Santo Domingo and Lima.Efforts will also be made this year in the modernization of its hotels, with 125 million euros being channelled into several renovation projects. These include IBEROSTAR Grand Hotel Bávaro (Punta Cana, Dominican Republic), IBEROSTAR Cancun (Mexico), IBEROSTAR Alcudia Park (Balearic Islands), IBEROSTAR Playa de Muro (Balearic Islands), IBEROSTAR Bahía de Palma (Balearic Islands), IBEROSTAR Santa Eulalia Ibiza (Ibiza, Balearic Islands), IBEROSTAR Málaga Playa (Andalusia), IBEROSTAR Lanzarote Park (Canary Islands), IBEROSTAR Anthelia (Canary Islands) and the IBEROSTAR Grand Hotel Salomé (Canary Islands).More news:  War of words between Transat, Group Mach ramps upTo introduce ongoing improvements to the guest experience, IBEROSTAR Hotels & Resorts has set up an ambitious work program targeting several key areas, including gastronomy, décor and wellness. Last year, the company opened the Marea and Cataria restaurants at the IBEROSTAR Playa de Palma and IBEROSTAR Andalucía Playa, and also signed an agreement with El Capricho to serve what many consider to be “the finest meat in the world” at several of its Spanish hotels. The second edition of IberostarChef on Tour will continue over the next few months. Share Posted by Turnover up by 10%, says GRUPO IBEROSTAR, new hotels & renos in storecenter_img Tags: IBEROSTAR Hotels & Resorts Travelweek Group << Previous PostNext Post >>last_img read more